The other day I was contacted by someone who is in a network marketing business. She was looking at my Facebook page and saw that I had studied Chinese. I explained that I didn’t remember much of it because the only way you keep a language is to keep using it, and I didn’t get much of a chance to. She asked why not, so I told her: the majority of kids in my Chinese class were in fact Chinese (who had signed up to get an easy A), and they were mostly from New York City. They had all gone to high school together, so college was like an extension of high school for them because they came up to Albany with all their cliques intact. It was very hard to make friends for me.
All of a sudden she says, “Okay, well I am trying to send you the link to my website, but I am not technically savvy enough to send it through Linked In.”
I said, “Then how would you normally send it?”
Out of nowhere she blows up and says, “You’re too negative, and I don’t want to work with you!”
She hung up, and I was stunned. I mean, really…all I did was tell her about the reality of why I didn’t hang on to the Chinese language. As I said above, SHE ASKED ME “WHY NOT?” Don’t get all pissy with me just because the answer I give you isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
I hate those kind of people, and I couldn’t work with her anyway. Let’s all stick our heads in the sand! Yeah…because THAT will make your problems go away.
Reality check, folks: sometimes there are things in life that, by their very nature, are negative. (What if I had been a Holocaust victim? What if I had lost a child to SIDS? Would she have had the nerve to tell me I was too negative?) You don’t get anywhere by pulling the covers up over your head and hoping they go away.
All I did was give her the answer she asked for. If she couldn’t handle it, then fine. I have no problem with her running off and pretending she lives in Disneyland. As for me, I live in the real world where, every now and then, things go bad. And when they do, you HAVE to acknowledge them. How can you deal with them unless you say “yes, this is how the situation is, and it’s messed up?” Then you move on and say, “How do I fix it?”
That’s where the problem lies. Most people keep dwelling on the obstacle and never look to that next question. As for me, I already have my solution (which I also explained to the dingbat on the phone): it is true I wasted a lot of money on college learning a language I barely remember, but you know what? I can learn it again. There is that Rosetta Stone program (which I have heard is indeed legit), or I could even find local classes/people to help me.
Moral of the story: don’t label people as “too negative” simply because they talk to you about ONE NEGATIVE TOPIC. It’s idiotic, and not only that but it perpetuates the problem. Look at this ranting blog. If she hadn’t been so rude and judgmental, I wouldn’t have written anything like this today!